No one should be afraid to post something online for the fear that someone out there is going to judge them. It might sound silly, but it happens all too often. It doesn’t matter if you are a celebrity or average Jane, it can happen to anyone. Mom shaming. Why is this even a thing? Why does it matter that I don’t buy organic food at the store and another mom does? It doesn’t, it’s none of your business! My children have a roof over their heads, food on the table, and shoes on their feet. I have my faults, but I love my kids and they are healthy and happy (most of the time).
It doesn’t matter if you are a working mom or a stay at home mom, single or married, gay or straight, skinny or curvy, structured or chaotic, tattooed or untouched, happy or sad, medicated or unmedicated, pro vaccination or anti vaccination, one kid or one hundred kids, biological mom or step mom, old or young, we are ALL moms. None of these are better than the other, so stop shaming each other! If you feel the need to tear someone down or make a mean comment, stop and think about it, would you want to hear those words directed to you from someone else? Probably not. Is it something that you would say to their face? Just because you don’t see their reaction, does not mean that they are not effected by your words. And what you want to say is mean or hurtful and you would say it to someone’s face (or comment online), you are a JERK! It is completely unnecessary. If we tell our kids not to bully others, then why are mom’s (and others) doing it?
We all have things that we do not like about ourselves. Whether it be something physical, emotional, or financial, their is usually something we want to change. But, somethings can’t be changed, so we deal with it and move on with our lives. Sometimes we can change these things and that’s ok, just as long as it’s for you and not because someone else wants you to change. We don’t need the criticism of everyone else, we are hard enough on ourselves without any help from others.
We are moms. If we have a down day, it seems like all hell breaks loose. We tend to the needs of our children, husband or boyfriend (occasionally ourselves) and anyone else that can find us, every single day. Plus, laundry, dishes, meals, cleaning house, taking the kids to practices or games not to say that the guys don’t do some or all of those things, but you get the idea. We all have enough going on in our lives, we don’t need anyone else adding negativity to it. We need to stick together and help each other out, even if we just need to vent! Don’t break each other down, it pointless.
Motherhood is not always fun and it’s certainly not clean, but if we have other moms to talk to, it can make it a little nicer. So, let’s be friends!